(Or Reconnect-Rediscover) I’ve been reading blogs and bulletin boards…okay, and surfing some great jack-off videos. Hey, if you’re going to write about something, you have to do some research; right? Over the last few weeks I’ve noticed one common running theme. Well, of course the main common theme is cock. What, you were expecting navel lint? The thing I noticed most often is our penchant for the quick cum. In one clip, this dude went from totally soft to blowing his load in 1minute, 4 seconds. Oh, my!
Now I can understand the quick morning break or lunchtime jack-off. I understand we sometimes need fast relief; that “hide in the men’s room stall, furtive, blurry handed I-just-gotta-get-my-nuts-off-or-I’ll-explode” session. Unfortunately, we seem to want to do that all too often, as if we’ve never left those days when we had to hide our boners from mom & dad and quickly bust our nut in the bathroom or out behind the barn. It was always fast and furious and almost always guilt-ridden.
But we’re adults now. It’s time to rid ourselves of that 12-year-old kid and learn how to lavish our dicks with attention. This is the “me-time jack off.” I don’t like the term “self-love” – that seems to be more of a psychological thing for me. That being said, learning to love and appreciate all the wonderful sensations you can conjure up in your cock is important. So, let’s embark on that journey together, shall we? But I warn you – it’s going to take some time...meaning, this is going to be a long post; yet in the end I think (hope?) you’ll find it worth it. We’re going to leave that furtive teenage, fast, fist pounding session behind and we’re going to stroke gently and lovingly, we’re going to explore every sensuous nook and cranny, tease every bump and ridge we find on our cocks. I want you to discover – or re-discover your body as well as your cock. It’s going to get rock hard and subside and do it all over again, and again, and again. Ready?
Find a comfortable place, whether it’s in the bedroom, living room, or somewhere out in the middle of a field. Leave the cum rag, leave the lube…it’s going to be just you, whatever amount of pre-cum your body delivers and the part of you that makes you a man: Your beautiful, sensitive, cock.
Standing, close your eyes and run your hands along your body, from head to thighs, around to your ass. Squeeze your ass cheeks in your hands. Feel the muscles, knead them slow and sensuous. Run the edge of your hands up alongside your crotch, push your balls together. Run the palms over your abdomen at the base of your dick. Slide a hand over the growing bulge and squeeze. Feel the head engorge. Bring your hands up and knead your chest muscles, run both hands lightly around your throat and the back of your neck. Touch your ears, run a single finger around and behind them. Slide two fingers down the length of your throat, feel the tingle, then slide your hands down the torso and to the inside of your thighs – make sure you stop at your abs running your hands back and forth. Back up to your chest, knead the muscles, pinch the nipples. Bring your hands along your face, touching lightly, run your fingers up your cheeks, across your brow and down the bridge of your nose, ending with your lips. Put your fingers into your mouth – one at a time. Pay attention to the wetness, the slick feeling; suck on them. Slide them, wet and slick over your throat across your adam’s apple to the hollow at the base. Wrap your arms around yourself and hug your body, then run your hands along opposite arms. Massage the muscles along your sides. Move one hand around and squeeze your ass, push the edge into the crack and run it up and down, while the other hand grabs and squeezes your thickening cock. Push up under your balls and rub the sides of the root of your dick. Feel how it increases the hardness of your shaft.
Do a strip tease for yourself as you begin to remove your clothes. Slowly take your shirt off and drop it to the floor. Rub and massage and squeeze your pecs, glide fingers over your throat, the nape of your neck. Run your fingers along your face, brow and nose. Let a finger slip into your mouth and suck on it while your other hand plays with a nipple. Use the wet finger and draw little circles over a nipple, pinch it and flick it with the wet finger. Feel the little ridges and hair follicles around it. Feel how hard it gets. Switch hands and repeat it with the other one. Run your hands up into your arm pits and glide your fingers down the length of your arms, stopping to tease the soft crook at the elbow. Let your fingers glide over the wrists and down to the palms. Massage your hands lightly. There’s a trigger point on the palm of your hand that can give you a hard-on. Find it. (My massage therapist always manages to hit it just right.) Run your hands over your belly and push a wet finger into your navel. Listen to the sound it makes; can you hear it? Run your hands across your abs so the edges rub against the base of your shaft. Notice your tool jump, wanting to be freed.
Open your pants and shove a hand down inside. Grab your hard-on and squeeze it, stroke up and down it a few times. Feel the turgid twitch. Cup your balls and massage them. Scoop a bead of pre-cum and spread it on your nipples. Massage and knead your pecs some more. Push your pants down and let your cock spring out and stand proudly in the air. Grab your ass cheeks in both hands and rub them. Notice how your cock moves as you play with your butt cheeks. Put the edge a hand into the crack of your ass, spread the cheeks with it, push against the hole. Feel the way your dick responds, the way it jumps and sways. Spread your legs and run the edge of your hand up between your legs, letting your balls and shaft rub against your forearm. Notice the different sensations on your cock from the different textures of skin touching it. Play with your balls, knead them and massage them, push them against a thigh muscle; pull down on the sac and stretch it. Push the fingers of your hands up against the root of your shaft. Feel how the head flexes upward and your entire cock gets bigger.
Kick your shoes off, remove your socks, let your pants drop to the ground and step out of them. Stand with your legs comfortably apart. Look down at your dick. Study it. See the bead of pre-cum grow and begin to drool from the tip. Let your eyes drink in the color of the head, the tiny ridges of the skin that covers it. See the round bottom ridge of your cockhead, see how it curves upward toward the underside of the shaft. Follow the veins along the shaft as they disappear into your abdomen. Look at and study the shades of coloring along it; see how that changes when you spread pre-cum over it. Notice the way your cock twitches and jumps. Feel the heat of the shaft increase, watch how the head gets a deeper red as the blood pulses through your cock.
Sit down now, and explore your entire body with your fingertips. Your toes, the insteps of your feet, massage the calves of your legs, tickle the soft skin behind your knees with fingers you’ve wet from sucking on them. Run your hands along the inside of your thighs, feel the head of your cock poking against your stomach; maybe the tip is buried in your navel, filling it with pre-cum. Run your fingertips lightly across the inside of your thighs, notice how your balls elevate when you hit the most sensitive area. Do it a few times and watch them pull up and drop each time you stroke the nerves on your leg.
Massage your feet. Each toe and the arch of each foot. There’s a spot between the balls of your feet – a trigger point – that will make your cock hard. See if you can find it and watch the reaction. (Again, my massage therapist always manages to find it and work it until I’m good and boned.) Lovingly inspect each millimeter of your dick, from the base of the shaft to the tip. Stroke it all with the tip of one finger, then run the edge of that finger in circles around the ridge of the head.
Lie on your back and glide your hands softly over every inch of your body that you can reach, from your upper legs to your brow. Notice the sensation it brings. Lick and suck on your fingers – one at a time. Use the wetness to tease your nipples and make them hard. Gently scrape your fingernails across them. In rhythm, use the flat palm of each hand to cup around your balls and them stroke all the way up to the head of your cock…keep going all the way to your chest and circle back over your nipples. Push your dick down against your abdomen and push it sideways, back and forth. Feel the head glide through the pre-cum that pools there. Using just your fingertips, stroke the skin of the shaft – feel how the skin glides over the hardness and how the head is gently rocked against your belly.
Use your fingers in the same way to stroke along the root of your cock. Put external pressure on your prostate, pressing your fingers against it and rolling them in small circles. Notice how the pressure increases the thickness of your cock, makes the head bulge. Pull your cock up away from your belly and let it slap back down. Feel the tingle in the head when it hits, notice how it bounces a couple times, splashing in the pool of wetness. Run a fingertip in the pool of pre-cum and then make tiny circles across the very underside of your cock where the shaft meets the head. That tiny sweet spot that makes your dick jump.
Wrap your non-dominant hand around the very base of your cock in a back-hand grip and start a slow jacking. Feel the edge of your palm bump against the sensitive ridge of the head. Let your body tell you when and how to pick up the speed and then switch to your favorite hand. Spread your legs wide and feel how your balls sway and bounce as you stroke the shaft.
Don’t forget to put that other hand to use – play with your nipples, squeeze your balls, push on your prostate, suck on your fingers. Feel your whole body tingle with excitement. Feel the pre-cum drooling and spreading over your cock as you use those full up and down strokes. Can you feel the energy gathering in your very core? Notice how your breathing is becoming more rapid – shallow and almost as fast as your hand is moving along your shaft.
Do you feel the heaviness in your balls, the way they’ve begun to pull up, getting ready to empty? Can you feel the prostate turn into that buzz-button you’ve heard about? It tingles and pulses with your heartbeat. Press on it and feel how full it’s getting.
Thrust your hips in opposition to your hand as it moves up and down your cock. Feel the pressure building in your core. The heat rising in your body. Notice how hot your cock has become; how much bigger and thicker the shaft and head have gotten. Look down at your burgeoning tool, see how the head is turning a deep reddish-purple. Squeeze it, see how rock hard it is now. If you let it go, it should throb and hover and sway over your abs.
Bend your legs slightly at the knees, spreading your legs wide and stroke your cock faster. Feel the hardness, the heat build. Feel it pulse, beginning its contractions. Notice how your balls have pulled up and get squeezed against the root of your dick. Feel the first surge build, your torso lifting up off the ground, and squeeze the base of your cock – feel the first shot of cum loading. Thrust your hips and stroke up – feel the cum rise through your cock, feel it shoot in an explosion of a hot, opaque rope. Your whole body should be one huge nerve ending – you are one with your cock as everything spasms in unison. You don’t care where it spews – all you know is the deep contractions of your body – let it fly! Let it land and spatter wherever it will. Quickly run your hand down to the base of your cock and squeeze it again for the next volley and push it up and through with your hand. Feel the base of the shaft expand and contract as it blasts another shot out, feel the heightened sensation in the head of your dick. Do this with each spurt of jizz – pushing your hips into the air, and using your hand to help your cock eject your ball cream.
Notice how your cock pulses with them. Notice the warmth of that liquid when it hits the skin of your body in thick gobs. Slow your strokes as your ejaculation subsides, but don’t stop them. This should be a sensory overload for your whole body. Let the cum drool down over your hand, flooding the area between your cock and thumb. Run your thumb over your cockhead and spread the juice around, feel the nerve endings there send shivers through you making you gasp. Notice how soft and silky smooth your cockhead feels under the slippery jizz.
Breathe deep and make your mind focus on every part of your body. Keep slowly stroking your cock – feel it soften, spread the cum on your hand all over it and over your nuts. Use the other hand to slowly and gently massage your balls as they lower back down into place. Notice how the muscles in your entire body have loosened – the tension gone. Notice the splatters and pools of cum, feel the hot liquid begin to cool in the air around you.
Lay there and drink in the feelings of well-being. Notice your balls – they feel light and empty. Stand up slowly and look down – look at how low they hang not quite as low as they did before you came. Spread your legs and rock back and forth and feel how your cock and balls sway, the wet, sensitive head slapping against your thigh. Notice how good you feel. How great your cock feels, still semi-hard – the nerve endings still humming. How terrific your balls feel now that they’ve emptied their load.
Focus on those feelings and they should be with you for several hours. When you take that post-cum whizz, notice how the shaft and head of your cock are sensitive to the flow of piss. It almost feels like you’re shooting another load of cum.
This is what you should be doing every so often, guys. Leave that frenzied jacking off, that “gotta-bust-a-nut” session behind and enjoy yourself; reconnect with your entire body, because it can be one huge erogenous zone. It can become so intense, so sensuous, so erotic, that in your mind - when you picture yourself as you cum - all you see is one huge, pulsating, hard-as-steel, glorious cock.