Kamis, 30 Desember 2010

On Male Bondage

No, I don’t mean shackles and leather restraints. I mean JO Buds. Hmmm. Another “secretive,” completely misunderstood thing. I mentioned in an earlier post about married guys looking for a jackin’ bud – or buds. I think I should clarify. What I meant was, straight dudes – married or single.

What a negative stigma has been attached to this type of male bonding! A psychologist friend of mine, when I admitted my teenage activities to him, laughed and told me it’s way more common than most people realize. He said it does not change, or in any way influence, a man’s sexual orientation. The simple act of masturbating with another male simply brings them together through a common bond. It becomes a learning tool; you are able to come to the full realization that what you have hanging there is, with minor variations, the same. It feels the same, looks the same and, above all else, behaves and reacts the same.


For adult males to engage in mutual jacking strengthens and solidifies the bond between them. I think the founder of the Rain City Jacks (a jack off club in Seattle, Washington) stated it on their website most succinctly: “Sexual orientation is both very simple and very complex. As human beings, we're a lot more than just one thing and it takes more than an interest in JO to make a person gay.
Masturbation is sexy. Seeing a man stroke his hard cock is an erotic sight, even for a straight man. A gay man may have a different range of experiences around that image, but just finding it erotic and exciting is simply human and simply male.
A gay man is going to experience a strong sexual attraction to other men throughout his life, will be sexually indifferent to women and compelled naturally to seek romantic partnerships or familial alliances with other men. A straight man will experience strong sexual attraction to women throughout his life, general sexual indifference to men and will feel compelled to partner with females. These are fundamental drives etched in our genes.
But given the right circumstances, when presented with a safe environment to explore, a straight man can thoroughly enjoy masturbation with other men. It does not alter his fundamental sexual orientation.
These examples are extreme. The vast majority of men fall on a continuum of sexual orientation between completely gay and completely straight. Most of us are capable, given the right circumstances, of enjoying a sexual experience beyond our natural predisposition.
Therefore, it is perfectly okay for a straight man to be turned on by the sight of another man masturbating, and perfectly possible to masturbate with him and enjoy the experience. It does not alter his fundamental sexuality.”

Personal experience, throughout my teenage years and into adulthood, has proven that all true. I belonged to a jack off group until it closed down for a lack of facilities to hold events. And, the overwhelming majority of our attendees were married, self-identifying straight men. One day I polled the men to ask what, beyond the friendship and male connections they formed, at least part of the allure might be (beyond the obvious).

Overwhelmingly, the answer was: men are way much better at hand jobs and sucking dick. No lie (sorry, ladies, but it’s a totally true and accurate statement). I guess it simply boils down to if you have a cock, you inherently know what to do with one. You know how to treat it, you recognize the physical signals it’s telegraphing as it twitches and throbs, hardens and subsides, and as the balls elevate and drop back down.

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